Birth Plans for Surrogacy

When it comes to surrogacy, it’s important to develop a birth plan that works for both the surrogate and the intended parent(s). A birth plan is a document that outlines preferences for the birth of the surrogate baby and is agreed to by all parties involved. It serves as a guide for the surrogate’s healthcare provider and support team, and helps ensure that everyone’s wishes are respected during the labor and delivery process. Surrogates and intended parent(s) should develop a birth plan together so that they can all feel more prepared and in control of the birth experience. Here are some tips to consider when creating this birth plan!

•  Start the birth plan early on in the process. It’s important to begin discussing wishes for the birth plan early in the surrogacy matching process so that everyone can be on board and comfortable from the get go. Overtime, the surrogate and intended parents will have time to explore all the options and make decisions together. It’s also important to remember that birth plans are not set in stone and can be revised as needed throughout the pregnancy. But, by clearly stating any strong wishes for the birth plan early on, intended parent(s) and surrogates can ensure they are on the same page.

•  Communicate openly! Communication is key in any relationship, but especially between surrogates and the intended parent(s). Honesty is critical in developing a birthing plan, especially for a surrobaby. At the end of the day, being honest can ensure that everyone’s wishes for the birthing plan are being considered. As the birthing plan is being made, both parties should be checking in with one another to ensure that everyone’s on board with these decisions. Will this be an unmedicated birth or will the surrogate have an epidural? Who will be present in the birthing room? What is the communication plan once the surrogate goes into labor? What about if there is an emergency? Be sure to listen to each other’s concerns and respect each other’s opinions.

•  Consider all your options. When developing a birth plan, it’s important to consider all the options available, and know that these options may change as the pregnancy goes on. This includes pain management options, birthing classes, birthing positions, and who will cut the umbilical cord. You should also discuss what will happen in the event of an emergency or if a C-section becomes necessary.

•  Consult your resources. Your OB can be a valuable resource when developing a birth plan. They can provide information on the different options available to you and help you understand the risks and benefits of each. They can also help you make decisions based on your individual health needs and the health of the baby. Brownstone will be in contact with the hospital or delivery center where the surrogate will be delivering to make sure everyone understands their rules, procedures, and regulations, including visitor policies, and how many people may be in the delivery room. We also work with every surrogate and intended parent when creating a surrogacy birth plan that works for all!

In conclusion, developing a birth plan with a surrogate is an important aspect of the surrogacy process. By starting early, communicating openly and honestly, considering all the options, and relying on your resources and support team, you can create a plan that works for both you and your surrogate. Remember, the birth of a child is a special and unique experience, and working together with your surrogate to develop a birth plan can help ensure a positive and memorable birth experience for all involved.